Nicole- first, thank you for taking the time to read my sitch. I'd also like to just say thank you for any and all work you have done. I have unfortunately lost civilian contract counterparts of our K9 world, which just shines the light on everyone there and their importance. So I thank you!
I agree with your train of thought... Why would someone chose to take a massive hit financially, yet still spend a large amount of time at the 'marital home'??? It makes me think that her actions are simply not rational, along with her mindset.
C- thanks for not sugar coating it. She did later say she was sorry for turning to someone else and shutting me out (although personally I understood why she would be tempted to stray). You also pinpointed one of/if not the biggest problem...
What does a LBS gain in being a nice, cordial, friendly side at this point???
And here is where my balance between GAL, doing dark and being the best version of me collide.... I worry that if I put on the "I'm happy with out you front"... That it will just enable a spouse who's on the fence. A WAS who doesn't want to hurt the other, but may think " well they seem to be doing just fine since BD. .. So I'm okay to leave them.
I hope that made sense and thank you both. By commenting you've already given me help and strength.
