Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

[mleigh4]

Hi Job. I can't afford to buy H out. We have way too much equity in our house, and prices continue to surge. When H and I talked before Christmas about the fact we should do something about our marriage, and I told him, all I want is S and I to stay in our home until he finishes high school, H fully agreed. That is when I decided divorce will be ok and I am ready. Now that he seems to be hesitating on that agreement, it's putting me right back into thinking do nothing and stay in our home. I still very much want to no longer be married to H, but if that means S and I are out of our home, that changes everything for me. With the cost of living here, I believe I would be worse off. It's not that I am negotiating with him, I am trying to establish his thoughts with the home to help me decide what I do. I will sacrifice anything for my son.

Cali, you bring a huge point in my thinking. The stories I have seen here with the D process and the MLC'ER makes me wonder, am I crazy to bring that on??? I forget sometimes that I am not dealing with a rational person. I truly thought after H and I discussed things so calmly and he was so caring, that this would be a no brainer smooth deal! Dumb dumb M! I too mostly think his threats are empty, but he gets in my head and installs that fear. Big bully. I am so proud of how you took your situation, dealt with it, and still made things work out for yourself. I am sure I will do the same. I will keep doing my research and wait for those answers.

I dropped off S to H tonight. He is back to sweet as pie. He even braved being alone with me for a few minutes! Looks like he has calmed down. My lips are sealed until after snow trip. I am going to sit quietly, gather info and give myself some space and time to think.

Hope you all have a good week.
M