Cali—what you describe about your internal struggles over her affair. Yes! I can see that happening to me exactly as it happened to you. And I see in the piecing threads the struggle. She has no idea how much she hurt me. And she says I have no idea how much I hurt her. So how do these two hurting parties ever work things out?

Agree that she needs to get healthy...it’s the without my help part with which I struggle. I know. I didn’t break her. I can’t fix her. I know.

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving