New LBS - need advice

[trbuste]

I have intentionally kept on posting on FB and even created a brand new Instagram account. Not necessarily to 'boast' about my GAL activities but to show that my life is not stopping simply because my W left me.

[winner]

I do the instagram thing as well. I do not go overboard but I think its good for my self esteem to see all the fun activities I am pursuing. The struggle is real!

[winner]

I am curious to know how your W is responding?

[apothem]

Those are very good points. I'll keep my stuff updated, but I won't go overboard.

I too am curious how she's responding. Sadly we don't have an open channel of communication as I'm giving her time and space. I'm not initiating contact, I'll leaving that up to her.

Also, I've been thinking. Once the divorce is finalized, I feel my chances of reconciliation are almost zero. At that point, she has no reason to talk to me or see me. I have my son who she was a step-parent to, but she's by no means obligated to see him. Regardless, I'm still GAL and keeping a PMA. I'm actually making plans for this weekend as my son's grandparents are taking him from Friday night to Sunday morning.

[winner]

Do you really feel she will go through with the divorce?

[Vanilla]

Do what is best for you.

If posting on FB keeps you in touch with friends then do so, if it's not for you then don't.

The effect on W is irrelevant.

If you are usually open then be who you are.

V

[MoveFrwd]

Once the divorce is finalized, I feel my chances of reconciliation are almost zero.

Thats just your fear talking. This is someone you spent every day with for years. If she wants to seek you out, she can certainly find you.

Be patient and use the gift of time that you have been granted.

[MoveFrwd]

If you are usually open then be who you are.

Or, if thats who you WANT to be!

Like V said - do what you want and stop worrying about the 'effect' on W. Likely, she doesnt care at all one way or another.

[apothem]

Thank you guys for all the insight

@abohn - I am genuinely worried she will go through with the divorce. Don't get me wrong, obviously all of me wants her to take time and think about it more and it's possible she's doing that, but at the same time she might just want out.

@Vanilla - Posting does keep me in touch with friends so I will continue to do so.

@Amoafwl - Very true, definitely my fear talking. I'm a believer that it's hard to just walk away from something and not look back. Then again, she got into a fight with her best friend of like 8 years in like 2010 or 2011 and she hasn't spoken to her since. But, that doesn't necessarily mean she will do the same to me.

[apothem]

The one thing I am hoping is that as she starts the process of changing everything to her parents address and moving out from under my financial support she will start to have a change of heart. I know that can be a huge shock for a lot of people.

More than likely she is going to move on to her parents cell phone plan, auto insurance, etc. She likely still needs to perform a change of address at both the USPS and DMV. She still won't be truly independent and supporting herself which she said was one of the main goals of the divorce.

She started the process of getting a new bank account, but has been having all the mail come to our house still.