Adjusting to being a LBS #2

[Subitai]

Friday she asked me if I wanted to run an errand with her and the kids and her dad (the last part of a Xmas present he was getting them), so I picked the kids up (which made work easier for her) and went to the store with them. I bailed out early as I had plans with friends to see a show. Saturday, I came over to take care of them while she had an appointment. I had asked if I could bring my bike and go for a ride (and then leave it there since I would be moving back in the next day) and she said sure. When I got back, she said she had ordered pizza and I was welcome to stay. I had a slice, then headed back over to the apartment.

Sunday, I came over early as she had a bunch of errands to run, hung out with the kids, and when she came back she asked if I wanted to stay with our D or take our S to a b-day party. I stayed with my D (who is sick) and then suggested we order dinner for them to pick up on the way home, and we all had dinner again that night.

Today is my first day 'back in the home' and her first day away.

I left a potted flower, some sardines and crackers, and one of her favorite terrible deserts for her at the apartment to find on Sunday. I know, brownie points are dumb.... but I'm trying to be thoughtful and friendly, and the place really needs some cheering up, so the flower seemed like a good choice. (And less pursuity than cut flowers.)

No contact/messages about that. I will back off now after that to giver her space in the apartment. Before she left, I had mentioned if she was missing the kids we could do a mid-week dinner as I really enjoyed seeing the kids on last Wednesday, even if for a little while.

Coming back into the kids after many days off was a bit of a shock. I found my self getting annoyed at them quite easily, but not getting 'mad' at them, if that makes sense to people who know about anger issues. I'm settling down into it, though. The kids are acting fairly normal, which either means we're doing a pretty good job with the divorce so far, or that this is the calm before the storm. Hopefully they will ease into the adjustments.

That's the sitch right now.