Hi Rottz - Sweetheart, slow down Stop on your journey every now and then, smell the flowers. Is your R on a deadline? Be kind to yourself.
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He held me for a bit. Then turned his back to me. This is a confusing and disturbing new trend. He sleeps with his back to me, and he never used to do that. We always swap off holding each other.

OK, NG and I cuddle when sleeping, and always do it spoon fashion. Both of us have very sensitive backs, and love the feeling of being hugged from the back. Maybe H has the same sensitivity? Trying acting as if his back is an invitation?

And yes, spouses will take advantage of our kindness, but this too can be managed. I love cooking for NG, only to realise that he expected me to be in the kitchen while he was writing lovey dovey emails to OW. Well, now, I wait till he is ready to hang out in the kitchen before I even start cooking. And guess what, while he is hanging around, he actually helps

Strategy, strategy. Keep on swimming, my friend. Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time