New LBS - need advice

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Update: After talking with my therapist again she suggested I reach out to my W with a quick message. She said because I could be dealing with someone who has BPD/abandonment issues it's important to let them know that you are here and not abandoning or ignoring them. We haven't communicated at all in the last 7 days.

So last night I sent my wife the following message: "It might seem like I'm ignoring you or abandoning you, but I just want to respect your need for time and space. I'll always be here to talk."

She responded with, "I'm okay, thank you for checking in."

Essentially, the way I interpreted it is that she doesn't need to talk to me. The plus side is she could have responded with something negative or "please don't message me", etc. I do feel better after sending her that message because I would have always wondered "what if" I never sent it.

From this point forward, the ball is in her court to contact me. I've been working more and more on GAL and continuing to better myself so I can have a better future for myself and my son.