Your W did not go overnight from a woman who was flaunting OM in your face to a committed, totally changed wife. This is not an overnight process. Please read the threads of Cali and PsySara.
I believe you should move out without a doubt. It's your best chance for reconcilliaiton and a healed M. When you tell you wife what you stated earlier and she doesn't run back into OM's arms if you move out, then it will show her commitment to working on the M is real. If she says she won't do it if you don't stay, then you know she has a whole lot of work to do.
Changes in behavior are good. But you have GOT to stay the course.
