You know, I was just sitting here thinking. Last night, H was "stressed out." For months now, when he comes home, I tell him to relax. I may get him a drink, rub his feet, whatever. When he is in bed, I take the dogs out for their final outside run. (Usually I walk them in the a.m. and afternoon, and he does before bed.)
Last night, he was sitting there with a scotch, I had just taken off his shoes and rubbed his feet. He was smiling and wagging his imaginary tail. The dogs kept jumping around asking to be taken outside. H sat there watching a motorcycle show on the Speed channel. I asked twice during commercials if he would please take them out and put them to bed.
H sat there through the commercials. I began to get up to take them outside as I couldn't take their barking anymore. Finally, I noticed H was acting very lazily and I have been taking them out at night for over a week.
I sat back down and said "H, you are taking advantage of me being nice to you." H said "No, I'm not. Well, just a little." Then he smiled and made funny noises as if to be cute so I would forgive him. I ignored him and just laid there. Forget him, I am not doing his chores anymore.
Am I wrong? I think he is taking advantage of me DBing for him by expecting me to clean, shop, cook and take care of the dogs while he comes home every day "tired" from work. I know he has a stressful job, but how long should I continue doing this for him? After all, I have a stressful job also.
Is this part of detaching guys? I feel like it's me time, it's time for me to take care of myself. Last night while wrestling, he hurt my pinky. I said I needed ice and he didn't get up to get any. Usually he would. I did, and then said I was mad he didn't care. He said he did care, but didn't want to miss the show.
I feel like I should have told him "then go in the other room because I don't want you here, I want to sleep."
Do I need to start setting boundaries and letting him know he can't walk all over me?
