When we have been badly disappointed by people who told us they loved us it must surely make accepting love from anybody else a little more difficult. It's sensible to be a bit more vigilant, cynical and distrustful of others. When you've got fresh scars you try hard to make sure you protect them.
Sometimes we need to listen to that alarmist Henny Penny in our minds who sees red flags and hears undertones. Mostly, we need to tell him/her to calm down and be as positive as possible. Don't be too hard on yourself - your divorce is still quite fresh - and even though your XH left a wee while ago it is very understandable if it reopened a wound or two.
