it’s been almost 5 hours. I think it’s best for her to spend as much time as possible with OM so she can see the reality of it.
M- If I may... I believe your in the ballpark for train of thought. I think you need to set clear boundaries for yourself, with what you will/will not tolerate. That's a fine line that only you can decide.
Unfortunately somewhat similar to you, I also believe that W has to get out there and 'have a chance to miss me' and/or W has to get out there and fail. See that the grass isn't greener or doesnt stay that way, in this new fantasy reality she now has.