Bttrfly - I thought of you when he said that parentifying junk.
Job - yeah, they are asking me why we are divorcing. They think it is sudden (their BD) and his reasons were strange to them. We don't fight, argue and we've had some good times these last few years. I don't know how to answer this one. H's reasons were really lame, not what marriage is based on.
And yes, Job, he's already started with his nonsense. He wanted to be able to get his own mail from here! Err, WRONG! I told him in no uncertain terms I will give him any mail he receives.
Next up was his grand plan to leave all his junk in the garage. And there's a lot of it; remember the car parts? Lots of old big stuff that is pure junk. His plan was for me to store it for him. I told him no way. I want it out. I've seen how that goes from Andrew's wife and Mleigh's husband.
So then he said he'll sell it the junk out of my garage over the next few weeks. Wrong again! I told him I work full time and will not be able to grant him access to my garage. (That felt great to say after months of hearing that garage door at all hours.) And I also told him I don't want people trolling my property without me here as it's not safe and we have a lot of robberies in my neighborhood.
Lastly I said, we are separated. You are moving out. Separated people take their stuff with them and sell it from THEIR houses. He said the move will take two days. If his stuff is not out, I will have it hauled out and bill it to him.
My kids have big hearts. It is as Job said. The three is us upstairs supporting each other. H bought drinks and carried them up to bribe them. S14 was worried how the dog would adjust. So heartbreaking. S12 told me he feels he has no family. So hard to swallow that.
And where is h? In his room watching tv with the door closed.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
