Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

[mleigh4]

Hi ownit,

I appreciate hearing your story and status. It makes a lot of sense to me.

I came to this decision to divorce last year. Since bringing it up to H, thinking he would be all for it, I am starting to wonder if I poked a hornets nest. I too live in a very expensive area in the bay area, CA, and prices continue to surge. The thought of finding a new place to live terrifies me financially.

Life is good, S and I live in a beautiful home, S goes to a great school and is set to until graduation, I have money for fun and am still able to save, no issues with custody.....I just hate being married to H. Is that worth messing up all the above? I am rethinking that. In 7 years, I won't have the pressure of keeping us in our expensive neighborhood.

I guess once again I have the gift of time....but we will see what happens now that the hornets nest has been disturbed. I am feeling pretty confused so best not to take any further steps until I am sure what to do.

I am curious, are you holding off on divorce just until your son finishes school?

M