W—

I love you. I don’t want to be D and I am encouraged that you say you don’t want to be D now either. However, right now we are unhappily M and neither of us want that. We both have raised serious issues with our R that need to be addressed. If we keep doing the same things I am afraid we won’t address them.

As you know, I have committed to an apartment in town and I am continuing with my plan to move out. I am hoping that this will give us an opportunity to build a new R and as you said “see what happens.” I would like to start dating you exclusively. We can date platonically until such time that we both want something more. I want us to rediscover one another and see how we relate to one another as people not in our roles as H and W. We can work on the romance and passion and not just fall back into old routines.

My goal in all of this is to see if we can get back to that happily M state that we both cherished in the earlier part of our M. Two summers ago you said you wanted a new M with me. I want the same.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving