Do not waffle, stay the course. Move out as planned and allow her to work on herself. She's got a lot of issues to deal with and she won't be satisfied w/her decisions until she's had time alone to focus on them and figure things out.
You also need time to figure out what you want to do as well. If you have things in your life that you aren't happy about, then now will be the time to work on them. Whatever changes that you make, you make them for you and be happy w/those changes.
You can always start a new relationship by dating. The old marriage is dead and the only way to start a new one is by going back to the time you two met and start a new relationship.
Bttrfly has given you "golden" advice. Re-read what she has posted to you. I back her advice 100%.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
