I don't find it odd. Your W is not ready for D. She was trying to gauge you (temp check). She looks miserable because she is. She seems like a very stubborn person. You have probably added fuel to her misery, by showing her a confident, prepared J9.
She's came apart. She is hurting and lost.
I don't see anything wrong with standing for your M.
IMO your W won't being doing the work for this D.
Are you both A type personalities? If so than, seems to me that both of you might be waiting for the other one to blink. Just my opinion.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.