Alright the W just left. We had a very matter of fact conversation about her wanting to procced with D over a beer on the couch. There was no R talks and I did not turn into Mr. Melty Man. The conversation lasted about an hour. I thought asking her if she wanted to get some lunch but I had no idea what I would talk to her about so I didn't offer. At the end she Thank me for being so thorough with what I laid out for her. I feel like I am leading her through the D process.
Everything we spoke about was finances. She does not want the house and wants to maintain 50/50 custody. She I feel like that is a win for me. Everything else will be split 50/50 so only other thing we will need to come to terms on is what I will pay her each month. There are a couple of other things that we will need to address as well but I think it should be pretty smooth.
I informed her of what the next steps are and that she just needs to keep me posted on her progress. I only showed her a strong confident man, there was no hugging or anything of that nature. At one point in time she was apologizing for asking me about money. I told her she does not need to apologize, it is part of the process. She commented to me that you know I don't have anyone or any family. I told her I understand I that I want her to be happy. That was the only conversation about us.
After she drank half her beer and we were wrapping up she told me she was getting sleepy and I could tell she was over whelmed by the conversation. Truthfully she just looks wore down, doesn't look happy and seems just really miserable. I called my mom to give her an update and she asked me if I thought I needed to reach out to her 1 more time and ask her if this what she really wanted. I told her there is no way in h$ll that is going to happen. She is a big girl and can make her own decisions.
I asked my W if she had an A and she said no. She asked me what the next steps where and I walked her though what she needed to do to file. It really appeared to me that there was no OM because if there was I would of thought she would be more educated on the process or she would have been much different with how she approached me.
Anyways that is about it, I guess we shall see how quickly she moes forward but I don't anticipate anything changing.
