Hi all, just got back from youngest D's basketball game. She scored 12 of thier 22 points so it was really awesome to watch! The W and my oldest where their but I didn't have much interaction with them as I was at the scorers table helping keep score. I got up early this morning, got some legs in and played baketball for 2 hours. Needless to say I am a little spent.
H - I agree I think holding on to hope is fine but you can't let that interfere with detaching. I know I am not 100% detached yet so that is why I suppose it impacted me some. I feel much better today though and am ready to get down to business.
K - I am glad to hear that you have found some strength/wisdom from my sitch. I am sad but I do have total peace and am ready to move forward. I am confident with how I have conducted myself as a husband, father and during this sitch. The sad reality is that my W has changed, wants something different in life and feels that I can no longer provide it her.
If you have made mistakes in your MR work diligently to be a better man for yourself but don't for one second own your W's problems. Truthfully, I may not have provided my W what she needed emotionally, we grew apart or whatever but she was a pretty crappy W as well. I think I just tolerated a bunch of crap because I thought it was part of being MR.
I love my W, want her to be happy but I will not second guess myself. I did the best I could with the tools that I had at the time. I was naive and didnt understand "Love Languages" etc. but I was not a bad husband/father.
Hang in there!
LH - Correct, business decision. Recom will not longer jade what I want. 50/50 and the house......the rest we can haggle out with the A's.
I do feel the worst is past me and the rest is just the paperwork.
Thank you for all the support! Off to the dungeon!!!
JJ - I hope things are going well for you and your W. In the back of my mind I always thought it would come to this so while I held onto hope I am not shocked.
As I went into LRT and pulled away she never moved towards me, never showed any interest. I am sure she appreciated me giving her all the space but unfortunately it never impacted her.
