Thanks for stopping by with the hard questions. As I said above, I have mixed feelings. I want to be happy and hopeful but I am still guarded and cautious. I want connection and amazing sex but the former is more important and a prerequisite for the latter in my book and no, I would not take just the latter. Reconciliation is rebuilding love and M between the two of us. I agree the old M is dead. I feel like I’m in uncharted territory because I don’t know what a new M between us would look like. I definitely want more honesty and openness and willingness to say the uncomfortable and to work through issues and no sweeping them under the rug. We can’t pretend she didn’t have an affair. I also don’t want her blaming me for all of the life choices she now regrets.
Well that doesn't sound like what she is offering at all...
And I am not saying that she won't ever be able to offer that...
What this sounds like to me....
Is that it prolly wasn't as much her breaking it off, as much as it was him breaking it off. She got scared, and she knew that she could reel you back in...
I would say, that for now...nothing has changed ..
Keep taking steps for you buddy....
: )
Oh...and maybe start refining that list of what reconciliation looks like to you...
Your wants, your needs...
How you will know, etc....
Whether you use it for her, or in your new future...
