Gordie - I believe you already know that I'm on a "stay the course" script.
Looking at it cynically, she's throwing you an increasing number of crumbs to find the minimal amount of effort that she has to do to keep you enabling her life choices.
From one point of view this also shows you what her current thoughts are about the importance of people and relationships. She's now thrown OM2 under the bus (so it appears) for her own selfish motivations. If OM2 was worth destroying her marriage for - which is what she's done - he would be worth keeping regardless.
The oath that I swore and I am sure you and your W did similarly was "To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; in joy and in sorrow; to love and cherish and to be faithful to you alone". I actually dug out my old wedding service to copy this.
She's not ready to abide by this oath. She just wants what she selfishly wants and is willing to manipulate you to get it using any levers and buttons she can reach.
Just my - somewhat cynical - point of view.
As job would undoubtedly say though if she happens by - she's absolutely not done baking yet and needs to be left alone to do that.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
