I am a relative newbie and have been reading your threads for a while now. This has to be a head spinner here. Obviously looks like she is still in throws of MLC but something is at work here. Maybe it’s just fear of losing you, maybe some small realizations are starting to find their ways through the cracks.
Can you stay detached and continue as if this didn’t happen (minus the divorce obviously) and not re-engage but just see if she does go to therapy and what happens in 2-3 months? Or are you really out of bandwidth and just too exhausted by all this (which is completely understandable)? I am a believer that if people in MLC walk into therapy somewhat willing to confront their pain there is a chance.
Doesn’t sound like she is anywhere near coming out of the tunnel yet, but if this is the start is it still worth it to you? Even if it will take another couple of years?
I know these are obvious questions but sometimes asking myself the obvious questions is clarifying.
