I am heading out to run some errands so I will address the suggestion of separation. In the past I asked WH to leave the home and find an apartment or whatever. He flatly refused, his response was, "This is my home too until the divorce is finalized. I won't be looking for any place to stay until it's court ordered."
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3