Gordie #16: walking away from from MLC W

[Gordie]

Ownit, DNJ, butterfly, Cali, Irish,

Thanks again for keeping up and the advice. And cali, never feel bad about your advice. I know your anti d but agree 100% that sometimes it does serve a purpose and how it differs between men and women. Irish, agree on the GAL.

*****NEWS FLASH***

Well, she did the two things I didn’t expect: (1) she withdrew the D complaint and (2) she dropped OM2.

Good: She says being D will not make her life better. Things will be worse for her and the kids. She agreed to go to therapy for her issues.

Bad: She still blames me for the breakdown of our M and she has no remorse about anything. She is still angry with me.

Ugly: She doesn’t know how she feels about me but is willing to work on things to “see what happens”. She doesn’t want a physical R with me right now.

I told her I was surprised and happy but didn’t want to make assumptions about what this meant. I reiterated that I can’t stay M or living together if there are any other parties involved. She says she knows this as I’ve said it repeatedly. I also respected her wish not to sleep together at this time but that I also don’t believe in loveless, sexless M.

Other notes:

She did not like my answer earlier this week about love being a choice and M being a commitment. She said that’s where we are so far apart. That I see M as a duty and she sees it as romance and passion. She also didn’t like that I didn’t “stand up for her” with D1.

So what should I do now?