I am so glad you posted an update. I am really happy to read that your h installed the ceiling fans for you. Sometimes we have to step back and allow them the opportunity to get it done on their time clock and not ours. Trying to push them to get things done when we want them done doesn't always work and it builds up resentment. I'm sure your h was happy to do the work for you. It meant more to him when he could do it when he was ready and you thanked him for doing so.
The ceiling fan installation was a lesson in patience and expectations and you saw that when you let your expectations go, he came through for you w/o any prodding. This is a good lesson for all of us, i.e., dig deeper for patience and let your expectations go. I'm really proud of you for not bugging him about doing this for you.
Your h is still processing things in his life. He's seeing and hearing of couples who are experiencing separation, divorce and death of a life's partner. He's taking all of this info in and mulling it over. What he does w/the info, well...that will be up to him.
As for living in Mexico, it's a nice place to visit, but I'm always glad to return home. In your h's mind, he thinks he lives there, but the condo is just a stop over when he's not working. I think he would get bored fairly quickly if he lived there full time. While he's working, he's able to move around and the scenery changes all of the time, whereas living in one place for a very long time would get old for him. They need constant change during the crisis.
I hope that the new year will bring much joy and happiness your way. Please don't be a stranger...come back and post whenever you have time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
