Agree with the others, especially kml. KML, hadn't realised how close our sitches are! My XH proved 3 or 4 years into our marriage that he is pretty terrible at dealing with depression. At that time, he contracted an illness that made him a little depressed. He blamed me for all of his negative feelings and emotions yet without any discussion, decided to leave me - only to come back 6 to 8 weeks later crying and begging for another chance. Because I am a romantic and believed in my marriage vows I agreed. At that time, I would've been OK with kicking him to the kerb, but I ignored all of the thoughts of his flakiness and how I might just be settling. I did that because I truly believed that our love was strong enough to cope with anything.
Like kml and her XH, we went on to have two lovely children and we built a successful, exciting life together. Then the MLC thing happened, and my world fell apart. Now XH is with an Asian woman 21 years his junior, seemingly continuing his path to Nirvana. All of the things I gave him and all of the things I sacrificed meant absolutely nothing to him.
The thing I most regret is not following my heart the first time my XH left me. The thing I next most regret is sacrificing a great career to follow my XH overseas.
Beatric, you have gigantic, waving red flags warning you that your BF is going to break your heart and your spirit. You have already given him way too much. You are clearly a very warm, generous and loving woman - you can do much, much better than a broken, selfish little man who can't see the brilliant diamond of a woman you are.
Please don't make the same mistake I made. Go now. Run, do not walk. Do not cheat yourself of a much better future than the one you now face.
