I'm really struggling with trying to detach. She's constantly in my head throughout the day no matter what I do.
Its been 3 weeks since BD. Dont beat yourself up over a detachment yardstick. Its hard and its slow and it certainly isnt always linearly moving forward.
The best way I found to get my ex out of my head was to do other things which filled my head instead. For me, that was heavy strategy board games. For you, it could be tennis or meditation or reading or who knows what. But I think something that brings your focus away is always a good thing. I found too often that just 'going to the bar with a friend' was an excuse to talk about my sitch. The longer you go without thinking about her, the less you will find yourself thinking about her.
Originally Posted By: apothem
I had therapy yesterday and my therapist suggested my wife may have Borderline Personality Disorder.
She informed me that in those relationships the attachment is higher than normal, as well as the affection, emotions, etc. She said that divorces from a spouse with BPD are much harder than normal because of how high they elevate you.
Shrug. How does that HELP you? Whether she has it or not, the work falls on to your shoulders.
