I also checked with my kids on their feeling about the custody schedule we've had in place for the last 3 yrs. I am still in the marital home and he found an apartment about 1 mile from our home. My kids hate the back and forth even though the houses are so close.
I agree with talking with your boys and trying to figure out what works for you and them, not necessarily him.
I'm not sure where you are, but in my area if you go to court custody is determined in nights only. My H sees our kids everyday after school for 2 hrs and has them all day every day all summer long. So, when calculating hours, he actually sees our kids more than I do in terms of waking hours.
In addition to after school every day they also sleep at his house every Sunday and Monday night.
It is not an ideal situation for the boys, but right now it is working ok, so we are going to stay with it.
I also agree the back and forth during the week (even though you are going to be so geographically close) would be difficult.
My kids friends are all closer to our home than my H's apartment, so as my kids are getting older, they would prefer to be home more because their friends are there.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. The custody arrangement was the hardest for me to get through. I still struggle with the fact that I can't provide one home for my kids.
Last edited by job; 01/26/1808:21 AM. Reason: added spaces between paragraphs
M: Early 40s H: late 30s 2 kids under 10 M: 15 yrs BD: 7/14 S: 10/14
