Hi Liamj, fantastic news about the social worker. The truth has a way of comimg out and you did the right thing by recording S.
The thing to remember about W is she will have moments of clarity and then return to the fog. The detachment thats talked about on this site is where you need to be with regards to her words and actions. Keep the focus on you and your kids, concentrate on living your life and enjoying it.
My opinion is that all the WASs have regrets but who really knows to what degree or if they ever return to the person they once were. This is were your GAL comes in keeping busy by moving forward with your life.
Your doing well and dealing with this with strength. Its not easy and remember that life is still there to be enjoyed and lived every day. Focus on the positives and dont dwell on the negatives because even though our own problems feel like the weight of the world , things work out and happiness is there if we choose it.
Take care , Rd
Thanks RD,
Yeah I’m trying to detach more and more every day. I’m consumed by the A every day, but I’ve found my thoughts are shifting to 80% Just worrying about the kids. I realised last night that for the first time yesterday the pain I’ve had in my chest since all this began was absent. It came back this morning when she sent me an email, but it quickly went away again. NC has really helped me, plus all the new friends and old that have been supporting me through this. I’ve avoided our old mutual friends in the local area, so I don’t have to listen to how bad her life is. I had a dream last night that we were rockets in space, the other rocket undocked from me and floated off in to space, it looked really small compared to mine. Haven’t got a clue what that was about lol but I felt like it meant I was whole without her, and well she isn’t part of me anymore. Bit deep lol!
I had a bit of an apithanny last night too, I realised that their punishment for destroying our family is that they now have to be with each other as they literally have no one else. Now they may be over the moon at being together, but my gut tells me that it won’t stay this way for long, but even if it does, it’s still a punishment as each are living with a sociopath so I’ve no karma to wait for, it’s already arrived.
