Thought I'd pop back in to say goodbye and thank you.
I'm finally up off my knees, having learned more about MLC and my own resilience than I really wanted to! Not sure on the details of what 2018 will hold for me but it will be better. Life in my little house by the sea continues to be a good thing. The turning point for me, the point at which my head came up again, was really when I accepted the reality of MLC and the limits of what I could do. Taking my eyes off my H's life and letting him go with love saved me. Detachment saved my sanity first and then gave me a way to look past the losses to what comes next.
And my H? I have little information. His divorce is almost done. Some recent surprising events showed that he may be at the early stages of finding his way out of his crisis, but his life is far from good. A few conversations over New Year taught me that the MLC playbook is surprisingly accurate about everything from a disordered ow who turned out to have stolen from him and lied to him, the depth of anger he felt as a driving emotion and the timing of first glimmers of regret, perhaps even shame. I have no idea what will happen to him but I hope he eventually recovers and becomes the man he was always supposed to be.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
