1) W not only agreed to next MC session, but came home and said, unsolicited: "I can take off Wednesday two weeks after that-- we could go down and do an all-day intensive with her on that day."
2) She was going to cash a check she got from my Mom at Christmas-- we each got one-- and showed me a stash of checks she had received from my side of the family over the past year plus (dating back to Fall 2016, when the A started)... and she said "I just didn't feel right cashing them..." (Good to know she had at least a little bit of conscience while she was running around on me.)
3) Now the bad. At dinner tonight, she mentioned bringing bff (who is in town for the weekend) out with us tomorrow night (Friday). I think she is going to try to be peacemaker but... I just don't see how that ever happens. For those who haven't been following me, bff is and was very wayward-- cheated three times on my own BF to whom she was married for a number of years and now is finally getting a D. Bff was, at least at one point, working directly opposed to my MR-- assisting my W in covering it up and, becoming assimilated into OM's circle of friends. W says she (W) is a "big girl" and bff never did anything that W didn't ask her to do. Of course, I know this is not true as, just this past October, when W was showing real signs of improvement, bff called W from OM's bar, with OM and friends in background, and tried to entice her to come out and meet them. My W admitted she wanted to come (tearfully) but said "no." W does not know i know this-- it was discovered in the waning days of me keeping regular tabs on her, which i no longer do. Since then, AFAIK, bff has behaved herself, but i know from talking to my own bff that W's bff is still toxically angry at him and, by extension, all of my bff's frat bro friends from college (One of us found out about the infidelity and angrily confronted her at a get together a few months back.) I also know that bff has, at times, at least played at being "neutral" WRT what my w is doing (me vs. OM), but I can't get out of my head her calling W and upsetting her and setting her back. I also kinda half suspect her of slipping me a mickey way back last summer, though i have absolutely no proof... just that i blacked out after three 1/2 drinks, and I am no novice drinker.
Should i go along with this and see if i can make peace with bff? Jump up and down and scream HELL NO!(?) Or just find an excuse to be elsewhere? Fridays lately we have typically reserved for "us", so i don't really want to give that up but... IDK, spending an evening with her and bff (and bff can actually be a very fun and engaging person) doesn't really excite me.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
