Then maybe asking him to leave the home and work on himself and to figure out what he wants and not to come back until he has a game plan and a proven track record over a longer period of time is the game changer that you are looking for.
I so relate to the anger at yourself. I feel that I cheated my children. I chose a monster who has no feelings and can't give them what they need. I hope yours does better than mine going forward.
I will tell you that all is not lost. I have one child at Juilliard and another who, after a disastrous 8th grade year, looks like he is going to come up with a 4.0 for his first semester of 9th grade at the best school in our state with a desire to attend Princeton.
Children can thrive in a household with one parent who loves them, cares to their needs, and guides them with boundaries and strength.
We are so much closer now. They have told me that they now view both of us as human beings and not "parents". I think that is a good thing. They see that people are not perfect, that things go wrong, and that bad times can be overcome.
