Thank you. Yes, lots to think about. I can’t control her. I can only control me. If she signs then I will sign. If she drops it then I won’t fight that either. I am not willing to negotiate further so she can sign this, drop it or we can go to court. I am sobered by own’s non D and cali’s 3 year long saga. You have no idea how helpful it has been to compare notes on this process and knowing I’m not the only one in this slow-mo situation.
Is it just a piece of paper? Yes and no. It will give me financial clarity. It will protect my parenting rights. It will affect me emotionally. It will help me detach further. It will not hurt my chances at R and may even improve them. For some the D is the last straw, but I guess it’s not for me. Concurrent with moving out, this will also be the talk of the town whether I like it or not but I’ve decided I’m not talking. My closest friends know and everyone else I’ll just say that I’d prefer not to discuss it, thank you very much.
Another thought I’ll share for those in the bleachers. For some of you, b d was in the beginning of MLC. For me, it came about five years after my stbx started making all of her physical and social and religious changes. That’s not good or bad, just an observation as I compare my situation to others.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
