My own opinion FWIW is that it is best to continue on the plan as it is. If the divorce is postponed she'll continue to spin around and try to get lots of cake knowing that Gordie is still her puppet on a string.
In a hypothetical future where she does come around and is indeed willing to do the hard work that would be necessary for her to be trusted again, having gone through the divorce also provides a solid basis for a post-nup. I'm too cynical perhaps but I've read too many stories where they come back and everything is peachy for a couple of years and then they go off to play with the fairies again.
Again - only my - somewhat biased viewpoint.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
