Build your relationships outside of the marriage. If you have a network of people who like you, care about you, and hold you in high esteem, you will care less about what your wife thinks of you because your perception of your value won't be solely invested there.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015