I realize commitment and loyalty are major parts of my personality.
Most things in life are a ying/yang, light side and dark side.
The light side of staying in a bad relationship are a devotion to commitment and loyalty.
The dark side of staying in a bad relationship are complacency, fear of change, fear of conflict, and fear of being alone.
The light side is great, the dark side not so much.
As someone who has been divorced for several years now and has had new relationships, the benefit of divorce is that you learn it's completely survivable, so fear of change and fear of being alone are greatly diminished.
Personally I think that's why second marriage success statistics are worse than first marriage success statistics, people are simply less afraid to leave a second marriage that is not working for them -- assuming they've done the work, is that a bad thing?
Although loyalty and commitment are great traits, I'd love to see you focus on getting comfortable with conflict, and being proactive about stating your needs and standing by your non-negotiables.
That will make you MUCH happier regardless of who you're with.
You're doing great Holding, hang in there!
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
