do you have any thoughts on the WW getting to a position when being faced with good DR’ing she might feel a certain sense of pride that she can’t go back or be unsure as to the route back to the MR is gone? Good being the lighthouse but not if the bulbs gone…
hi, Mark... i am a former WW... i am familiar with your situation... i have been following it from your first post... in my situation, i had two EAs that H found out about... first one, and then a few months later, a second one... after discovering the second EA there was a HUGE fallout... but eventually, we stayed together... got passed it--sort of... but he did warn that if i ever did anything like that again, he would go scorched earth... there would be no going back...
well--in time i did it again... it got ugly between us... i was not ugly toward him, but he was toward me--and i believed that i deserved it... i moved away across the country for 18 months... we co-parented our boys... i came back... after being separated for 3 years, and legally separated about 2 of those years, i came to him and asked if he would considered reconciliation... he could have said no... he could have laughed in my face... i was nervous, anxious... but i did it anyway...
nothing would have stopped me from asking him... not the ugliness of the early days... not the shame of my actions... but we had both moved on, as much as you could, for a good amount of time without being divorced... and i cannot say that he was any type of light bulb or light house, or that he paved a smooth road back home to him... or that he even left the door slightly ajar... yet--i approached him...
at this point in time--almost 3 years piecing, i could never see myself living out my days with anyone else...
