I'm very sorry about your latest revelation -- when people want out of a relationship there's a tremendous amount of fear that comes with that decision. Often another person, or even the thought of another person, can help to alleviate some of those fears. This is a symptom, not a cause, its a distraction.

Do your best to avoid rationalizing reasons for you to reach out to her. Give her space, head the other way, be the better man and the prize to be won.

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015