Thank you Andrew. When I read your posts to other people I always see a sensibility to your advice. So, I am going to heed your words.

Job - yes, he definitely thought this was all going to go like this: he would draft everything and I would sign. The second I said I needed a minute to look things over, is the minute he started getting really mad. He also thinks this is going to be no absolutely no big deal for the kids. And yes, he's clearly been strategizing for a very long time.

Regarding us being separated, I have a text from him from this September wishing me a happy anniversary. And it even says this is the second year he has wished me a happy anniversary first! At times I feel so disoriented. He so strongly tells me it was all so awful. And then I just remember all the mixed signals. Sometimes I feel like I don't know what is the truth anymore. Then I tell myself it doesn't really even matter anymore.

Sotto - thank you for telling me this will get easier. I really need to hear (and believe) that right now.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced