Agh, honestly - the whole....Oh don't worry, I can just run things through my L for us both. Really?? crazy

I would just have a stock phrase of - H - we both need to be properly advised during this process - and leave it at that. He can rage all he wants. It isn't going to change....

I think your H is kicking off rather like Mleigh's is. The thing is, they think it is all going to go a certain way (their way) and they don't entertain any other thought - forgetting there is someone else in the mix with interests and free will.

Hopefully his L will help settle things down a little. I certainly found that to be the case in my situation.

Just keep moving forward HaWho and things will get easier in time I promise xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus