Thanks BH....I realize you never know what will happen in the future but even though I have always hung on to hope in the back of mind I always kind of knew she wasn't coming back when she walked out the door. If nothing else hopefully how I have carried myself will help us move through the D process a little easier.
I surely wanted to show everyone that it was possible and give everyone a little extra boost that they could also be successful however as LH said there are two parts to this and feel good about completing the first part, which really is most important in saving yourself.
N - Thanks for the positive words. I am naturally a very laid back person and 99.9% of the time am calm and in control so i think that comes very easy to me.
In my state the Mediators can get everything drawn up but only an attorney can draw up the agreement. So my W and I can either Mediate with A's or without A or if we already agree on a bunch of stuff skip mediation and just go right to the attorney's. One of the guys that I play basketball with a Judge in the county we live in and he gave me the name of 2 attorney's that are good guys. His advice was to skip mediation all together if you and your W are talking, amicable, etc. and already agree on stuff. He said there is not point in going to mediation on stuff that you already are good with. For us I think the biggest two things we will need to discuss is if I have to pay her alimoney and what the monthly child support will be. I think everything else will be a non-issue.
