Newbie In Need Of Guidance

[Accuray]

Agree with Sandi, your mistake was that when she started yelling at you, you should have pulled the car over and told her to get out, and then driven away.

If you don't stand up for yourself, she can't count on you to stand up for her, and in that context she has to be the leader and doesn't feel "safe" in a relationship with you.

Although standing up to her will make her furiously angry in the moment, that is the RIGHT outcome when she's acting like an ass. Although she will be outwardly angry at you, she will respect you more and feel better about you, and that is FAR more important than restoring the peace in the moment.

Repeat this phrase to yourself over and over until you believe it: "She doesn't like it? Too bad."

Acc