Apparently I am not as good at detaching and DBing as I should be. At DC, wife brought up how hard it was telling the kids because I basically badgered her about if she was sure, absolutely sure she wanted this before we told the kids, making her feel like she had to defend herself all over again. Ugh. Well, what's done is done. Also, at DC I got the equivalent of IDLY. She said what was the other option to divorce? Stay married when she doesn't have those feelings for me anymore? She didn't say IDLY, but the effect was the same. A gut punch for sure. I had, in my head, been believing she still loved me, but just didn't think I could change, and all my 180s would save the day. Those feelings are completely gone, though. Time to refocus on DB, working on me for me, and working on my relationship with the kids.
The grind, it keeps on grinding.
Me: Mid 40s W : Early 40s M:11 T:13 S, D, both 7-10 BD : 11/2017 Separation : 1/18