I think I benefitted lots from going out on a few dates.
I really surprised myself by seeing how quickly I could work people out...what they were all about, where we got on and where we didn't get on. I wasn't expecting to, but I guess being almost 20 years older than list time I was single, and having run my own business for many years, I must have become quite sharp.
I absolutely didn't go out on dates with this intention, but one of the very unexpected benefits was to see myself through someone else's eyes. And what I saw I liked. I think I had been concentrating hard on doing interior work, by myself, and on my own, with the only exterior feedback (if you like) being through my luckily very sociable zero hours job, it really didn't occur to me to go out on dates...that I could or would even want to.
Anyway, one thing I discovered was that it takes time and energy going on dates. I think I probably had a lot of energy (I was still on the adrenaline rush of trying to get as far away as fast as I could from XH).
The ones I enjoyed the most was where I was quite zen about it all and just let the other person come to me, without any expectations.
