I finalize the refinancing of my house on Friday. She has already signed the paperwork to get her name off the deed. After the refi on my house (the marital home) is complete, she can refi her new house and get me off her deed and mortgage.
The end of the school quarter is Thursday. D16 has been staying with WAW all week, and WAW is getting D16 to finish her school work. D16 and I had a huge argument on Saturday about it. I didn't handle myself well, and apologized to her the next day, when she was at her mother's.
S17 just got his first college acceptance today. It's his third choice, but we're all very happy.
I took S and D on a college visit Saturday (had the blow up with D16 afterward). We had a really nice time. I asked WAW if she wanted to join us, and she was going to come, but had a contractor at her house, so she had to stay home. I didn't put any pressure on her, and she would have come if she could have.
S17 was in a play last weekend. I was going on Fri and told WAW. She said she was going that night, too, and asked if I wanted her to buy the tickets. I said sure. Went with D16, and went out for a bite to eat beforehand, and a really nice time. Again, I was polite and pleasant, and put no pressure on her.
W has had issues with her house. A pipe froze, ruining her kitchen ceiling, kitchen floor, basement ceiling, and basement floor. She texted me about it, and I let her know that I knew she could handle it, and I let her. (The contractor couldn't finish the work, so she couldn't come on the college visit)
Later Saturday night, her blower for her furnace failed and she had no heat. I did the civil thing, and told her if it got too cold, she could come stay in the spare bedroom. Again, no pressure. She texted me later to say she got two space heaters working, and since it was a mild night, she'd be fine, but thanks for the offer, and I expressed confidence in her ability to deal with this issue, too. The weather's been mild, so she's had time to fix it.
Yesterday, she let me know her heating options... expensive fix, or new furnace, and asked my advice. I let her know my thoughts and she asked what if I was wrong? "Then you get the satisfaction of telling me how wrong I was." She thought that was very funny.
Today she sent a very long text about a lot of things, but included was the question about continuing to pay child support after S17 graduates. I told her I'm still thinking about it, and she said she needs to know before she proposes a settlement offer.
I suspect nothing's changed, but subconsciencly I think I'm trying to convince myself that she's maybe having second thoughts, enjoying, and seeking out my company again. I'm still struggling a bit with detachment, but trying. I'm faking it better, at least.
I think GAL is going fairly well. I'm playing volleyball 2 nights a week, going out and seeing friends, old and new, dating some, getting to the gym a few times a week.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
