In-house separation on path to D

[Jim1234]

this is one of the issues that makes an in house separation so hard. She has every right to invite friends over for dinner. And you have every right to not have friends over for dinner.

As to whether you should have cancelled dinner, I have no idea. On the one hand, I thought having enjoyable times together might make her rethink how miserable she was, and leave the path to reconciliation open. On the other hand, I don't think it changed anything.

Of course she is cherry picking. It's not crazy. She wants it all. Who wouldn't? My WAW tried to do that with the my niece's wedding and the holidays. It was a rude awakening to her that she wasn't welcome, but that didn't change anything either.

I think the bottom line is if you act in an honorable, respectful way, while still looking out for your interests, you'll be able to know you've done everything you could, to the best of your abilities, even if it doesn't work out in the end.