I hear you. Its the inability to separate emotionally because we're living together that is getting to me.
Just now, I get a text from my W that two other couples are coming over for dinner. I called her and told her that neither one of us speaks for the other as a couple anymore. She shouldn't be making plans for the two of us. Moreover, the house is joint so she should be telling me before anybody is invited over. She agreed to both. She asked if dinner was OK, and I said yes since you already invited them. I then said goodbye and hung up.
She called back immediately because she said she wasn't done talking. I honestly thought we were done. She started to explain why she invited them. I asked her if she agreed with what I said about not speaking for each other as a couple and invitations to the house. She does. We ended the telephone conversation.
I then called her back and said, "No, I do have a problem with it. I don't want to pretend like we're a happy couple in front of our friends."
She responded, "you don't have to"
I said, "Its my house too, and I'm not going to leave." I asked her to cancel the dinner. She said she would.
Someone please confirm this is crazy behavior on my W's part. Am I responding and acting in a smart way? I feel like my W is cherry-picking the good things from the MR and wants to keep them, but drop some other parts. I'm trying to make the idea of D a package deal.
