Fighting my way out of the dark - Part 8

[hoosjim]

Suffice it to say, I think we need to be aware that our spouses can read our posts. There are things I've held back on because I didn't want my WX to know. I'd imagine others here have done the same. Be careful, folks.

Do you think it's that easy to find this place? I only found out about this forum through a friend, and, even then, I found it very hard to navigate at first-- I think I even posted my first thread on the "infidelity" board as opposed to the newcomers board. Plus, I have religiously guarded the books, although I do think there was one time I left the house for a day and had left it in my backpack without first hiding it in my secret spot. I do think she has prolly gone through my stuff, because after a few drinks one night she mentioned "those books you've gotten", though in context pretty sure she meant some books on sexuality and also some general marriage self-help type stuff and not the DB-books which I always keep separately.

Wondering how much incentive there is for a WAS to go looking for divorce-support forums... Isn't a D what they want? Not saying it doesn't happen, just seems like it would be fairly uncommon. Anyhoo, if my W found my threads here, it would be crystal clear that it was me and that this was our sitch, so wouldn't be any point in denying it.

OTOH, I am pretty sure mine saw my journal, which I foolishly left laying around one day. Nothing too damning in there, though it did arguably show that I had a "plan to get her back."