In-house separation on path to D

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FC, if you can find a way to avoid the in-house separation, I HIGHLY recommend it. Talk to a L to see if you can move out without jeopardizing your parental rights. Or get your W to move out.

I endured 7 months of in-house sep, and it was H3LL! It wore me down in ways that are impossible to describe. I saw a side of my XW that was cruel and vindictive. As much I tried to DB and GAL, the in-house sep was emotionally draining.

Back before my XW filed, she said if I asked her to make a decision, it would be to move out. I was afraid that her leaving would doom the M. In retrospect I really should have told her to move right then and there. After she filed, my L advised me not to leave, so that's why I stayed. If anything, I think the in-house sep is what doomed the M.