Last night I was waiting for my W so we could leave for my youngest son's meeting. She came to put her shoes on and announced "I'm going to drive and drop you off because I have to go meet someone somewhere else." She didn't say who, so I assumed it was the OM. She said she was dropping us at the school and then going to a church.
In my quest to assert dominance, I said that I would drive and drop her off. She asked why, I said because that's what I want to do. She again asked why, I said "because that's my decision." She said "Your decision. You are such an ass," and said that always had to make things harder.
From what she said, it would make more sense for me to drop her at the church first since it was on the way to the school. She meant that she needed to go to the school and we were going to the church.
As we started driving she started in again about me driving and was getting loud. I told her she didnt need to yell or get upset with me, just talk to me. She said that she was mad at me for many reasons. I asked if she would care to share, she said "Not right now I wouldn't. "
She then started in with "you love me so much, you sure are proving it. You haven't text me in a week. You couldn't even make it three weeks texting me." I said all you would give me were one word answers, so I took that as you not wanting me to." "Yeah" was her reply.
Once we got the church things escalated. We get there and that's when I find out that the meeting is actually there and she was going to the school. I told her we could drop him off and I could take her. My heels were dug in at this point and all I was thinking was that I needed to stand my ground, but it really did make more sense for her to take the car. She was sceaming at me "why are you doing this?" Over and over and refused to get out of the car. I mean b@tsh!t crazy screaming. I remained calm and spoke at a normal leve the whole time. I have never seen her like this in 33 years.
Because my son was in the car and he did not need to see this, I relented and let her take the car.
On the way home, there were not many words between us. We spoke to our son and when we did speak, it was about his meeting. I tried to act as if nothing happened and appeared happy and positive.
When we got to our road, which is dirt, she slowed down and avoided the potholes where the pavement meets the dirt. I thanked her for going slowly over them. She replied "I'm mad at you, not your car." I busted out laughing. I mean rolling. It was hilarious. I could see her smiling and laughing a bit (probably at me). A minute or two later, still finding it funny, I stated chuckling again. She said "you're going to miss me when I'm gone."
A few hours later she was lying on the bed playing with her phone. I went in and closed the door. I told her the reason I dug my heels in is that I was offended that told me that she was taking my car instead of asking and that I understood her to say that she had to go to the church. She insisted that she asked if she could and that she said she had to go to the school not the church. That is not what she said originally.
I apologized for the misunderstanding and said that we should have taken a little more time to talk about it. (She has a bad habit of throwing things at me last second). She said that she tried, but I wouldn't listen to her and all I did was get mad at her. I told her I was never mad, just offended and that I'm trying. Overall, she was blaming me and having none of my explanation.
She went in to the kitchen to get dinner for my youngest son and started chirping about it again. I said "Ok, I'm going to start a fire." (We heat with wood) and left the room.
My oldest daughter saw this part and lipped to me "She's F@!%ing crazy!" More on this in another post. Things are worse between my kid and W than I imagined.
After I started the fire, I went to my Daughters' room to tell them something and ended up being in there over an hour talking. I'm sure that ticked my W off even more. She had a scowl on her face the rest of the night, but did manage to say goodnight to me when I said goodnight.
So, how bad did I screw this up? As I said, I have never seen her this angry
M: 25 T:33 Me: 48 W: 49 S24, D21, D18, D15, S8 All living at home while going to school A confirmed: 12-25-17 EA Definite PA Probable
