I wish I could give you the link, but I don't think it would be hard to find on line.
Being the man at home like the man you are at work........is difficult for me to say, since I obviously can't observe you on the job. However, if you are in a position of authority, then you may be able to identify areas at home where you are lacking. Another reason I wanted you to pursue the subject of the Alpha male vs the Beta Male in the MR, is b/c the writers can break it down and speak more plainly about how women are sexually attracted and their response to their Alpha H........especially in intimate ways. It will be worth the read! I wish every man on the board would read it, whether or not they think they are already Alphas.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!